Mom Refuses To Do Laundry Because Her Children Won’t Do Their Chores

Tensions can run high in any household, especially when it comes to divvying up chores.

But what happens when a mom decides enough is enough?

In a bold move, one mother took a stand against her children's reluctance to pitch in around the house by refusing to do their laundry.

A mom vented on Mumsnet about her 10-year-old and 13-year-old kids not helping with chores.

Feeling unappreciated, she decided to stop doing their laundry since they were old enough to lend a hand but weren't pitching in.

"I'm a stay-at-home mom with two kids, aged 13 and 10. A couple of years ago, I happily did all the housework, cleaning, shopping, cooking, laundry, etc as children were little and husband worked long hours out of the house.

"However, since covid my husband is now working from home most days and the children are older and more independent (meaning I'm no longer the only one capable of loading/unloading the dishwasher for example.)

"But I'm finding that I'm getting more and more annoyed at no one helping and I'm starting to really resent no one else pitching in, even when I ask.

"And yes, I have tried to talk to them about this. Things improve for 2 or 3 days, then slip back into old habits.

"It's lots of little things, but it's all built up and I'm ready to explode. I don't want to constantly 'nag'. I ask, I ask, I ask and nothing changes.

"To give an example - I put my son's clean laundry in his bedroom, all he has to do is put it away in his wardrobe (5 min job). 

"Instead that pile of clean laundry gets thrown on the floor, then buried in dirty laundry, left to fester until I either loose my sh*t or he sneaks it back into the laundry basket for the whole cycle to continue again.

I have spent a week asking him to put it away, it hasn't been done. So as of yesterday " am no longer doing any of his laundry. I refuse."

People understood where the mom was coming from and agreed that others in the house should help out too.

One person said, "Just stop doing things for them. Only do your own laundry. If you notice they put unworn clothes in the laundry, give them back. And if they won't wash the plates they've used, serve them food on those dirty plates. They'll learn soon enough. Talking hasn't worked, actions will."

Another idea was to give the kids specific chores to keep them busy. They said, "The kids need assigned chores. No screens or games until they finish their chores for the day."

But not everyone was sympathetic. One commenter said, "As a stay-at-home mom, this is part of the deal. However, I do understand the frustration with lazy kids, and I agree that something needs to change. Asking your son to put away his clean laundry is fair."

One mom shared her strategy for getting her kids to do chores.

She said, "I make a list of chores and put it on the fridge every day. Until they finish those chores, they can't use the computer.

"The chores change based on what needs to be done, like recycling, cleaning their desks, or putting away laundry. Usually, they have to do two or three chores a day.

"This method works well. If they're caught on the computer without doing their chores, I turn it off. I've only had to do that once, and my kids are 12 and 13."

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